Author: Will Grey
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A System Without Solomon’s Wisdom In the ancient story from 1 Kings 3:16-28, two women claimed to be the mother of a single child. King Solomon, faced with their dispute, proposed a drastic solution: divide the child in half, giving each woman an equal share. The true mother, driven by love, immediately relinquished her claim…
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Introduction to Response Times in Divorce Decrees In high-conflict divorces, court-ordered response times in divorce decrees create deadlines like 24, 48, or 72 hours for ex-spouses to reply to messages. However, the original aim of these orders is to prevent stonewalling, where one parent ignores communication. While the intent is to foster cooperation, these rigid…
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The Power of Silence in High-Conflict Divorce In high-conflict divorces, especially when children are involved, communication can feel like navigating a minefield. If you’re co-parenting with someone who exhibits narcissistic traits, you may already know the futility of explaining or defending yourself—a topic we explored in a previous post. But there’s a deeper, more powerful…
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The intent behind boundaries makes all the difference Boundaries are often misunderstood. When you distance yourself from someone—say, an ex-partner, a friend, or a family member—people might assume you’re holding a grudge. They’ll say things like, “You need to forgive,” or “How long are you going to be angry?” But what they might not realize…
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and What It Really Means If you’ve ever co-parented with a narcissist, you’ve probably seen this word pop up like clockwork: At first glance, it might seem like they’re just pointing out repeated behavior. But don’t be fooled. The word “again” is more than just a word—it’s a manipulation tactic. Narcissists rarely use language by…
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Why “Document Everything” Might Be Wasting Your Time—and Feeding the Wrong Narrative If you’re co-parenting with a high-conflict ex, chances are you’ve heard this advice: “Document everything.” You’ve probably followed it, too—saving screenshots, forwarding emails to yourself, logging every missed pickup, every dentist appointment mix-up, every lie. But let us ask you one thing: Show…
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How High-Conflict Parents Shape Their Children’s Reality In high-conflict co-parenting situations, most people focus on the obvious fights—the court battles, the texts, the legal motions. But what often gets missed is the narrative that the narcissistic parent builds and reinforces over time. And make no mistake: It’s not just aimed at the other parent. It’s…
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How Narcissists Weaponize Words (And How to Shut Them Down) April 3, 2025 · Main,Narcissists,Instructions 🚩 Narc-Speak Decoder: How Narcissists Weaponize Words (And How to Shut Them Down) If you’re co-parenting, communicating, or even just surviving a narcissist or high-conflict ex, you’ve probably noticed something: they all use the same playbook. It’s not just what…
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Protect Your Child’s Emotional Safety and Empower Their Truth Co-parenting with a narcissist or high-conflict ex is emotionally draining. Their narrative—where they’re the victim, you’re the villain, and your child is caught in the crossfire—can feel like an unrelenting script. While you can’t control their words or actions, you can shape your response to protect…
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Are They Hurting Your Kids? High-conflict divorces and co-parenting with a narcissistic or chaotic ex can push you to seek solutions that minimize tension. One common suggestion—often recommended in custody forums, Facebook groups, or even by mediators—is to conduct custody exchanges at a police station. It seems like a practical fix, but police station custody…